Is He Taking You For Granted?

DIY spaI’m baaack! And it’s time to get you all sorted because I’m still inundated with emails from you girls about what to do when he’s TREATING YOU BAD! So I have news….!!!

You can now join our INVISIBLE, SECRET group on Facebook to ask your questions to me and the other experienced girls!

You can find it here! Once you’ve clicked join I will approve as soon as I can. But why join? You’ll…

♥ Get all the information you could need on getting that guy! If he has pulled back, lost interest or isn’t texting/calling you, we’ll tell you why and how to fix it!

♥ Find out a bit more about how a guy’s interest peaks up and down and how to make it a bit more consistent.

♥ Have ALL and ANY questions answered by members who are experienced and knowledgeable about the best tools!

So join Glam Guide’s Get The Guy secret group today and don’t forget to like us on Facebook!

Cheers to that,

Stephanie x

 

 

What To Read When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Text You Back

How long should I wait to respond to his text message? Can I friend him on Facebook? Why did he ask for my number but never call me?

I am so excited that the rules have been refreshed, updated and republished for 2013!

(For a discussion on all things rules-related, head to the forum!)

When The Rules was published in 1995, its message was straightforward: be mysterious. But for women looking for love today, it’s not quite so simple. In a world of instant messaging, location check-ins, and status updates, where hook-ups have become the norm and formal one-on-one dates seem a thing of the past, it’s difficult to retain the air of mystery that keeps men interested.

Now, with help from their daughters, the original Rules Girls Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider share their thoroughly modern, fresh take on dating that will help women in today’s information age create the happy love lives they want and deserve. Whether you’re a 20-something dating for the first time, a 30-something tired of being single, a 40-something giving advice to your daughter, or a 50-something getting back in the dating game, this book has the answers you’ve been waiting for. The Rules include:

Stay Away from his Facebook Profile
Make Yourself Invisible and Other Ways to Get Out of Instant Messaging
Stop Dating a Guy Who Cancels More than Once
Text-Back Times Chart
Don’t Just Hang Out or See Him 24/7
TTYL: Always End Everything First– Get Out of There!
And much, much more!

Providing the dos and don’ts you need to stop making mistakes and start finding romance, NOT YOUR MOTHER’S RULES will revolutionize dating today just as The Rules did nearly 20 years ago!

What To Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Text Back

So it’s midnight and you’re still awake, yet complaining you are tired and want to sleep…

Why does this happen pretty much every night?

Ooh, er…cos you’re still waiting on his text. Again. For the nth night running.

Still. Waiting. On. Him.

But you just want to know he’s okay before you rest your head to sleep on that lovely pillow… but how can you sleep?!?! Isn’t it ‘SO WIERD’ he hasn’t texted yet?!?!

For the love of all, please let me help you.

Let’s start with a quiz to gauge where you’re at. Be honest, when waiting for your BF to respond, do you:

A)   text him asking “are you ok?????”

B)   text him “have I done something 2 upset u? txt bk xoxoxoxoxoxox” (please never do this)

C)   call him. (forget it)

D)   Watch a film, scoff your face with one hand and hold your phone in the other.

E)   Calm down, put your wig back on and read this. (pick this one)

 

a) Do you want to make your current boyfriend want you more?
or
b) Do you want to be with mr right?

 

If you’re answer is a), head to this article and then this one. But please be aware that this guy is probably not Mr Right…

Boyfriend Q&A

As well as reading the post, you can check out a forum dedicated to exactly this topic here!

Some details of the question in this post, including reader’s name, have been left out just to respect privacy.

Stephanie, I read your post about what to do when your bf doesn’t text you bk and thought I’d ask for advice.

I’ve only been officially with my bf now since July. When we first started talking I didn’t even realize that he liked me until he flat out said it and I turned him down twice before I finally gave in and decided to give him a chance. We soon realized that we both liked each other a lot and things went well. This happened at the end of last school yr and we talked all summer, everyday and almost all day. We spent almost every wknd together and some weekdays. At first the only thing we had trouble with was other ppl not approving of our relationship because of jealousy and the whole racial thing (I don’t have a problem with us being different races and neither does he but some of my friends do).

About a few wks before xmas break, he stopped asking me to come over on the wknds and we hardly talked at all. He’s not much of a talker on the phone so we mainly texted but he would call sometimes and never minded when I would call. Anyway, he started by only texted me very late at night, like 11pm then midnight and he even waited until 2:30am once.

Then, he would go days without talking to me and I just assumed he was busy because he likes to procrastinate and leave all of his school work to do until the last minute. When I questioned him about it, it turned out that I was right, he said he had been studying all night and had a lot of projects to do.

I acted like it didn’t bother me, but apparently he could tell something was wrong from the way I was texting him. He would constantly ask me what was wrong. I finally decided to tell him that I didn’t like how late he was texting me, how I never saw him anymore and how he hadn’t texted me for a few days in a row without any explanation.

All he had to say was “sorry I’ve been shitty lately” with a sad face. I told him it was ok, thinking that things would get better. I was wrong…he started texting me a little earlier, like around 9 or 10pm and then it was back to midnight. I figured, the last wk before we went home for break, that we would at least see each other once, but as the wk went on I soon realized that it didn’t look like I was going to see him.

He used to always tell me how much he missed me and wanted to see me after only going a couple days apart. It’s been wks since we’ve seen each other and he doesn’t even seem to care. He talked to me like I was supposed to be ok with not seeing him and like nothing was wrong. I have been feeling like something was wrong for a while now and don’t know if I’m just paranoid or what.

It’s not normal for him to go this long without talking to me. I texted him once last night but he didn’t respond. :(

Okay hun listen, I absolutely know what you’re talking about and here’s my take on it.

This is a classic example of a guy not getting bored, but…. getting complacent. Ever heard of the term familiarity breeds contempt? You have quickly became a chore to him. Please do not become offended because it is NOT about you, your essence or your personality. He liked these things when he asked you out. And you are still you, provided you don’t lose yourself which is exactly what you’re doing.

When he first texted you at 2:30 am, did you text back? If so, that was your first mistake. A mistake that has served as a response to his first “bullshit-test”. What I mean is, when he first started texting you late at night he was testing to see if you would take it. It was deliberate, to see how far he can push you. To see if you are a walkover. (And by the way, he may not even have REALISED it at the time, but he still subconsciously did it…)
Let me tell you something. It doesn’t matter how many “projects”, exams, work shifts or things a man has on his plate – if he loves you and is scared to lose you he will always put you first. Imagine if he had all of these things on his plate when he first started going out with you – after he finally managed to persuade you to go out with him. Do you think he would be so careless, not texting you back for ages? No. He wouldn’t want to rock the boat, he would want to make sure he has you
Sometimes he may be super super busy and may not have a lot of time for you BUT if he cares for you he will make sure to still be in contact and will certainly not wait until the early morning hours. You should be supportive of him but only if he treats you right. This guy is dishing you out shit.
Now he is 100% sure he has you and he can see that he almost has this control over you because you have shown him that his bullshit is bothering you. Even if it does bother you, you need to stay calm (and I know that’s so hard to do in these situations, especially if it gets worse) and even show that your eyes are open to other potential guys as he is not living up to your expectations to simply be treated right. Please do not stay up waiting for him to text you. NEVER withhold sleep for him (unless it’s an emergency). That means he definitely has a hold of you.
Play him at his own game. Yes, I said it. It’s not nice that we have to be like this with men and it takes a lot of willpower. But with guys like this it’s what you have to do every now and again, sadly. What you need is a guy who won’t play games with you, but unfortunately many do. So you need to make sure he knows that you are confident in yourself and don’t take his shit. He’ll probably be attracted to you all over again and you may see a difference in his behaviour.
So my advice to you is to get busy. Do what makes you feel good about yourself and your life. Paint your nails, condition your hair, go for drinks with the girls (or with guy mates..) and concentrate on being happy. When you talk to him, be nice, friendly and pleasant. Just like you were at the start. Don’t nag, moan or argue to get what you want – be unavailable.
I think when you have to play games with a guy he’s not right for you. But I also think it’s okay to play games when you’re young. So I would say either get rid of him or show him you don’t take bullshit in a relationship. It’s far better than being needy, waiting for him to throw you crumbs meanwhile neglecting your own life.
Hope this helps!
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Build A Successful Life – Don’t Let Your Boyfriend Be In Control

There comes a point in a successful girl’s life when we have to talk about men. Unfortunately.

What happens when a bright, beautiful young lady lets her boyfriend influence her self-esteem? The results are always tragic.

This is not about hating men. This is about recognising that they don’t like it when a girl revolves her life around them. And I see too many girls who spend their waking hours whining to their friends about why he hasn’t called or why he’s been withdrawn. I think these girls need to start doing themselves a favour by increasing their self worth and focusing on their lives.

There is an old saying: before you can love someone else, you need to love yourself first.
I want girls to have a glamorous and successful life, AND a decent relationship. I don’t want them to spend time analysing their man’s every action.

And that’s why I’ve written this post.

Before you even think about making that guy your boyfriend, make sure you gain 100% self-worth. OWN IT. If you’re already in the predicament of being with a guy who knows you’re unsure of yourself? Take back control and ownership, quickly, of your self-esteem before it’s too late.

Maybe you don’t think you’re all that. (And you should).

But don’t let him know that.

I know it’s comforting to be with the guy 24/7 because he sees you as the cutest thing since pikachu, makes your voice squeaky and turns your behaviour into an act that, if you’re friends saw, would be embarassing.

But making sure that, at the end of the day, you know who you are and you know you’re going SOMEWHERE is the best thing you can do for any relationship and most importantly for your life and health.

I mean yeah, he COULD end up the one you’re with forever, and if so, tell me:

WHAT IS THE FRIGGIN’ HARM IN LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF ANYWAYS??

I’m sorry I just get emotional. WAKE UP.

Give the guy and yourself some breathing space.

Coming from experience, I’ve always felt that a boyfriend wants his girlfriend the most and comes at her from all angles when she’s determined and focused on something. SOMETHING OTHER THAN HIM.

Example:

A job interview.

An exam.

A blog. Hello!

Friggin…a new mascara!!!

It doesn’t matter what you’re focused on, the point is guys like it. You might think this means that you’ll lose him. That you’re not paying enough attention to him.

Let me tell you something. It’s the complete opposite.

Sure…he’ll take his moods. He’ll go in a huff. He’ll throw his toy out the pram. Cos you’re not giving the little one enough energy to sap. And he loves fighting for it.

So the best thing about what I’m telling you is that not only do you get your life back, you also get an increase in attention from him. Which is fun. But don’t care too much about that, cos it defeats the purpose…

Just something amusing about your phone ringing off the hook ten times a second when you’re usually the one waiting and longing for his calls/texts/bbm/skype/tweets. I don’t like to see a girl sitting waiting on a guy for the wrong reason.

If you’re lucky enough to find the right guy to treat you well from the start – congratulations, you won’t need to play games. And you’ll know that as soon as you meet him. Unfortunately, the dating game can be harsh but women have wised up as to how to play it. Because we have learned, from all the tears and drama and hurt, that sometimes, we DO have to play a little game.

I know boyfriends are one of the most important (or at least frequent) topics of conversation amongst girls everywhere. I just wanted to give you my two cents. But I want to know your stories, your lessons learnt, your tears (that have gone to waste..) and most importantly – your advice.

Stephanie

xx

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