Playing Men At Their Own Game (Here’s How)

• Him ignoring you is a very, very common and calculating strategy men put in place temporarily to achieve one of the following:

1. To find out how much you like him
2. To increase your interest in him (uncertainty creates attraction)
3. To simply get rid of you in a less harsher way than simply telling you he isn’t interested (this may not have been the primary aim, but your reaction to this strategy could cause your value to fall in his eyes)

• some men, particularly those who you meet online – but especially those who you don’t know much about , will only implement this strategy after they have “lured” you in…this means, a man may show a stark contrast in his behaviour from the way he was at the start. Men you don’t know will put in effort to prove themselves, otherwise it wouldn’t make sense for them to disappear so early (unless they simply don’t like you).

• Given the above, your options are as follows, depending on how the situation turns out:

1. if he does reappear after a few days, take at least 2-3 days to get back to him. When you do get back to him, appear happy and light, as if you barely noticed he was gone. This way, he sees he doesn’t have a 100% hold on you (why men love bitches, sherry argov) and your attraction to him grows, and yet he still knows things with you are possible. He won’t give up. He’s a hunter.
2. If he does NOT reappear, do not by any means get in contact with him. For any reason. At all. Why? Because this man has just shown you that he is absolutely not interested. There’s a chance that if you do get in touch with him, he will use you. And play with your emotions further.
3. With regards to the previous point, please understand that some men are very insecure and that he may have been interested in you but thought he’d play a game however -because you are a valuable, desirable female – he is now beaten by his own game as he doesn’t have you at all. This is not the kind of man you want to end up with as the relationship would always be on his terms.


If you need further explanation of what the above means, or have your own situation that needs a personal analysis – you can book a consult with me, see details on contact page for my email address and I will provide you with a list of services.

Your Breakthrough Is On The Way

What are you waiting for? Don’t you believe you deserve it? Or do you not truly believe that you’re ready to receive it? If you don’t have it…it’s because you’re not as ready as you think you are.I remember every time I thought I was ready for something, and didn’t get it, I would learn later that I wasn’t really ready.We think we’re ready, but there is always something we can be doing to grow while we wait. God won’t put more on us than we can bear, so we have to trust His perfect timing.The Universe is conspiring for your success. Things are shifting in YOUR favor and everything must be aligned in order for you to receive your blessing.While you’re waiting, keep working on you. Force yourself to grow. Get more knowledge in that area and read more about it.Talk more about it…work towards it, and you’ll get closer each day. What you don’t understand now, you’ll understand later. It’ll all makes sense and you’ll see that His timing is perfect.It doesn’t make sense in the moment, while you’re waiting on your breakthrough, but when you do finally get your breakthrough…you’ll be happy.So sit, pray and continue to have faith–then, get to work. All while being patient–patience is the virtue.Don’t let the wait hurt you, let it help you.Your breakthrough is on the way.Blessings,Tony Gaskins Jr.

Source: Your Breakthrough Is On The Way

How To Regain A Man’s Interest

Today’s post is from a very special guest, relationship coach and writer Tiffany McEvoy from Born To Be A Heroine.

Tiffany Mcevoy is a relationship coach and writer for high-achieving women who are ready to quickly meet and marry their soul mates.  She has been coaching since 2010 and has worked with women from every continent on how to attract and sustain the healthy, loving relationship of their dreams.  She currently resides in London, and can be reached at

How To Regain a Man’s Interest

It’s scary when you feel a man’s interest is slipping away from you.  He was so devoted in the beginning; calling all the time, wanting to take you out, making plans for the future.  But one day, you notice something a little different.  His interest seems to be waning, but at first it isn’t in any way you can put your finger on.  He just seems a little more aloof.  Then he calls less often, and the spaces between seeing him get further and further apart.  He cancels dates and seems to prefer spending time with his friends over you.  You can’t deny it to yourself any longer; you’ve definitely gone down in his list of priorities.

At this point, it’s tempting to do everything you can to win him back.  You might be dying to call him for a heart to heart about “where things are going” (don’t!), or to start taking the initiative to call him and ask him out more often.  You might try to be extra sweet and pleasing, putting his behavior down to “stress at work” or “stress over a fight he had with his mom”, or “stress over it being the 5th anniversary of his goldfish’s death”.  You think that by being kind and understanding, he’ll realize what a prize he has and snap out of his funk, showering you with the love and devotion you deserve.

Of course, none of this works.  It seems the sweeter you are and the closer you move towards him, the further away he pulls.  So, how do you regain a man’s interest when he starts to pull back?

Focus on your own life:  Take your attention off him and put it on the most important person in your life; you.  What are your big dreams and aspirations?  What is it you’ve always wanted to do?  Throw yourself into those dreams.  A relationship is just the icing on top of the delicious cake that is your best-lived life.  Select one of your most cherished life goals and take steps to make it a reality within the next year.

Practice radical self-care:  Make a list of all the things you love to do that increase your energy.  Now decide that you’re going to take time every day to do at least 3 things on that list.  They don’t have to be major; it can be as simple as taking 15 minutes to curl up with a good book and your favorite brand of hot chocolate, or using a luxurious body lotion after your shower.  But you’ll find your energy levels and sense of well-being will increase, making you that much more radiant and magnetic.

Give him space to miss you:  Be so busy with your own life that you’re not chasing after him.  Let him reach out to you to find out where you are.  Men fall in love in the gaps between when they see us, so give him room to start coming towards you again.  If he’s pulled away in his previous relationships, he’s probably used to women tracking him down.  The fact that you’re behaving differently will intrigue him and make him wonder why you’re not acting like all the others.

Don’t give him your best days:  If he’s downgraded you on his list of priorities, then he’s lost the right to have you bookmark the best days of the week for him.  Don’t see him on Friday or Saturday nights.  Instead, squeeze him in for lunch on Wednesday afternoon, or a quick coffee on Tuesday evening.  He needs to earn the right to have you reserve the best times of the week for him.

Book a vacation: But NOT with him.  Find a few girl friends and take yourself away somewhere nice for a week or two.  Just tell him casually that you’ll be away, tell him where you’re going and then leave it at that.  His imagination will start working overtime at what you might get up to and who you might meet while you’re away somewhere new and exciting.  He’ll also see that you aren’t being needy and depending on him to be the source of your happiness.

Assuming he’s a good guy (and not deliberately pulling away to increase your anxiety), following the above steps, and returning to your authentic self will remind him of the wonderful woman he has, and what he stands to lose if he doesn’t step back up to the plate quickly.  You’ll also set yourself apart from the vast majority of women out there who would be more than willing to chase him down, and you’ll instantly become more rare and valuable in his eyes.

Special thanks to Tiffany for this insightful guest post, go and check out her site and a book a consult because ladies, if your man is pulling away it’s time to pull back twice as fast and twice as far!!



Get The Guy. Stage One: Finding Him/Getting His Attention

get his attentionImagine you are online dating site. You have amazing pictures up, a good yet mysterious description, and a decent guy contacts you. A few exchanges later, you are really excited because he asks you on a date. If you are like many girls out there, you would put a little more care into getting ready for this date than you would if you, say, were going to work or the supermarket. You take the necessary steps to ensure you have the best chances of him finding you attractive, right?

So the thing is, while you’re going to the supermarket or work, you have JUST AS MUCH CHANCE if not MORE to attract a guy. There are loads of guys out there in your day-to-day life who would be bowled over by how you look on a date – so why not look like that everyday and maximise your chances?! You need to put in the same amount of effort as you would going on a date or as you would if you were taking an online dating profile picture.

The truth is anyone can be made attractive, it just takes some of us more work and effort than others. And if you think that’s shallow – take a reality check – the majority of men out notice women who they find attractive. Not saying that’s the only way to attract a man, but it’s the way to find a lot more new ones. And dating is a numbers game if you want the best quality.

If a man can see that you are making the best of what you have, he subconsciously knows that you take care of yourself. You don’t have to do what every other woman does or have the same hairstyle, just do what you know suits you, what gives you confidence!


For extra help, here are some of the things that The Rules advise. You don’t need to agree or follow, but these tips are if you want to attract as many men as possible. Dating is a numbers game!

♥ Wear a short skirt, but not too short – if you have the legs for it

♥ Wear stylish, sexy clothes with nice colours!

♥ Don’t be a fashion slave – Find out what suits you

♥ Diet and exercise – if you are overweight wear black, it’s slimming

♥ Wear makeup that suits you – never leave the house without makeup!

♥ Grow your hair long – men like long and feminine styles.

♥ Have good grooming habits – manicures, pedicures, facials

♥ Wear perfume

♥ Act like a woman, be happy and not depressed. Smile!


Don’t forget we have a secret Facebook group for any advice you may need..



Is He Taking You For Granted?

DIY spaI’m baaack! And it’s time to get you all sorted because I’m still inundated with emails from you girls about what to do when he’s TREATING YOU BAD! So I have news….!!!

You can now join our INVISIBLE, SECRET group on Facebook to ask your questions to me and the other experienced girls!

You can find it here! Once you’ve clicked join I will approve as soon as I can. But why join? You’ll…

♥ Get all the information you could need on getting that guy! If he has pulled back, lost interest or isn’t texting/calling you, we’ll tell you why and how to fix it!

♥ Find out a bit more about how a guy’s interest peaks up and down and how to make it a bit more consistent.

♥ Have ALL and ANY questions answered by members who are experienced and knowledgeable about the best tools!

So join Glam Guide’s Get The Guy secret group today and don’t forget to like us on Facebook!

Cheers to that,

Stephanie x



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